Self-love

I don't know who needs to hear this, but you matter.

I know for a fact that sometimes we literally trip over our low self-esteem and our confidence levels are not that high, but we do matter.

"If you had a friend that was very close to you, would you talk to her the way that you talk to yourself?"

I came across that question last year, and i honestly wished that i have read it sooner, and i wanted other people to think about this question too.

When we are young, with no experience in life, we perceive ourselves as 'normal', but when we hear comments like "You smile in a weird way", "You are so underweight i thought you were a kid", or "your nose is too big", we start to belittle ourselves, we start to feel insecure, and we stop perceiving ourselves as normal and instead we start noticing every single flaw in ourselves. One comment after another, we start to believe those statements and our minds use them as a limit to our actions which could hinder our progress. How many times have you felt insecure about something in your appearance that prevented you from posting a picture, or even going to an event. You need to look yourself in the mirror and say "I accept you, and i love you". Just like you heard inconsiderate comments, you need to hear good things about yourself.. you deserve it. No one has the right to decide your worth but you.

If the 14 year old me could see me right now, if she could see what i have accomplished and what i have overcome, I am pretty sure she would be very proud. She would feel more calm and less anxious about her future, as she would know that all the hardships pass. That crush that did not like me back was not the end of the world, that the test i did not pass did not stop me from graduating, and that broken ankle did not stop me from walking and running again. To overcome all of these situations, I needed patience, persistence, and self-love..

If there was a perfect form for a human being, we would all look the same. You have something that distinguishes you from everyone else, even if you are still not aware of that 'something' yet, you will be. Give yourself the chance to explore your personality, to know what you are capable of doing, just always remember to never underestimate yourself.